Anger: Is this a ‘Bad’ Emotion?
Anger can be such a destructive force in our lives… it can shatter relationships and make us feel great shame.
BUT! It’s such a tricky fuckin emotion. Our whole lives we are told to express, process and connect to our emotions. Therapists and counsellors tell us this!
However, as soon as we show any anger, we are told that is dangerous and we get shut down!
Anger is a core emotion and is an important part of who we are. It scares people but that doesn’t change the fact that it is an emotion.
There is such a thing as healthy anger and without it we lose our selves and we lose who we are as individuals.
Healthy anger can guide us to drawing healthy boundaries. We need to distinguish between healthy anger and unhealthy anger. If you are unsure about the difference between these two ideas, please… please reach out for a discussion.
It is impossible to stop anger from entering your system. That feeling has been with humans for centuries, and will be with us for centuries more... as it should!
The question is what to do with it once it comes in.
Most people shove it deep down and try not to let it out, resulting in unhealthy thoughts, emotions or behaviours,... including letting it build up till we blow up at something 'meaningless'.
Anger can be such a destructive energy, but it can also be a positive force. If you had NO anger... zero, you may find your self questioning your identity and if you even have one. You may find that you let others cross healthy boundaries... again and again and again until you essentially have none.
Anger needs to be appreciated, acknowledged and respected... but it also needs to be understood.
Is it a healthy anger that maintains your identity or is it an unhealthy anger that leaves you feeling shame and regret?