Trauma-informed Counselling
Being a trauma-informed counsellor is recognizing we have gone through difficult and extreme hardships in our past that are having an impact on our present selves
The past is the past, but it lives within us, causing us to behave in a way that isn’t in line with how we see our selves. This results in us seeking help to get to who we are or at a place where we can move through this world feeling safe.
As a trauma-informed counsellor, it is important to keep this front of mind when sitting with folks who are talking about the difficulties they are having in their lives. Being trauma informed ensures that I never judge people based on their actions, thoughts or feelings.
What is trauma-informed Counselling?
I do NOT ask, ‘what is wrong with you?’ but rather I ask, ‘what happened to you?’ and this is the view we should have of ourselves and others. We need curiosity and compassion towards our selves…
Your feelings, thoughts, actions, and emotions make sense to me. If they don’t, we have not gone where we need to go… yet.
How do I know if Trauma
is Impacting Us?
Most people can feel the impact of the past on the present selves. When I grew up, the word trauma was reserved for folks who have suffered from extreme adverse life events, such as witnessing a friend being brutally murdered or being involved in a horrific accident.
Today, however, our understanding of trauma has expanded. People’s past has an impact on how we react to events in the present.
Do you act in a way where after the situation, you don’t get why you behaved that way… like you weren’t really thinking… often feeling shame or guilt?
Does your action ever seem out of proportion to the event? If you stoically look back at something and say… ‘okay… why did I ‘lose it’ like that?’
Do you feel ‘on edge’ in what is a ‘safe’ situation? You are at a party with people and are in no danger, but your system is ‘on fire’?
How long does it take you to ‘come down’ after a stressful event? Does your system return to homeostasis in minutes, hours, days, weeks?
*These don’t necessarily mean you are impacted by trauma, but it could be something worth exploring!
Trauma-informed Counselling: Readings and Videos
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk - this book is a massively important work to understand how trauma can impact our present selves. The body’s goal is to keep us safe before the wise part of our brains can interpret the situation. This ‘keeping us safe’ can often negatively disrupt our lives. The body truly does keep the score.
If you don’t got time for the whole book, check out this video:
https://youtu.be/iTefkqYQz8g?si=PfiwxIU9icL3y5zO
In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction by Gabor Mate - the definition of a trauma-informed human who has shone a big spotlight on how trauma plays a pivotal role in addiction and what it takes as a society and individuals to address this… a beautiful and must-read book.
If you don’t have time, check out this video: