Couple’s Counselling
The problem is not you.
The problem is not your partner.
It is you and your partner AGAINST a cycle.
Relationships often get caught in cycles. These cycles can look different for each couple and can fluctuate in intensity and frequency throughout the course of a relationship.
A common cycle can be where one person in the relationship gets upset and expresses their anger or frustration, which results in their partner shutting down and becoming more and more distant… which can cause more anger, leading to more shutting down.
This can result in a loss of intimacy, connection, and communication while resentment builds.
This cycle, and whatever cycle you’re in, can be disrupted and changed to bring you closer to each other. Often times, it can be disrupted by a small change.
Once this occurs, the deeper work can follow. What is beneath the anger and frustration and what is underneath that shut-down response.
It does, however, take hard work, patience, and persistence.
Fight, Flight, or Freeze in an Argument = Gas on a Fire!
Your body, and amygdala, may be kicking in because it sees a relationship loss, or the threat of a loss, as a danger to your survival.
If you find yourself and your partner caught in a cycle, check in with your body and head to see if you are in a mode of fight, flight, or freeze.
If you or your partner are, it can turn ‘minor scuffles’ into full blown fights… it’s like pouring gas on a fire!
There are ways to reconnect to the part of you that wants a deep and loving connection before it gets to that stage.
Specialized
Treatment Area
Unhealthy communication and behaviors
Feelings of disconnection and intimacy problems
Current betrayal, guilt, or emotional pain
Healing from a breakup or past relationships
Difficulty being vulnerable and communicating effectively
Emotional blockages or misalignment
